Hi,
I have worked for this company for more than five years now, I have won twice an award of best of the best in the company. My boss is a lady and saying that she is a lady doesn’t mean that I have an issue with that because she is all good as she has made the company to be among the top 10 in east Africa. Last year we became so close and ended updating, we were able to define our time and we were able to know that we cant mix our love life with a job and it has worked. She is a good lady but I feel that she is all over as I don’t feel that pride of a man as I fear what will happen when she wrong me I always end up getting hurt but I can’t act as I am fearing that I might lose my job. I am feeling that the time is now for me to marry but am fearing to marry her as I think she will always seek revenge by maybe making me working for more post than am suppose to, what should I do drop her and marry another lady, look for another job in a different company what should I do.

Hi to,
Whats the problem with the whole thing we are in a free world and when you decided to love her you well knew that she was your boss as there is no where that you have said that she was promoted when you were already lovers.
The problem with the whole thing is not the position that each and everyone of you hold but the problem is you as you are not a man if you can just be a man things will be simple and they will flow she is your boss yes and you should respect her as one but when you are working but when it come to love and family life you are the boss and she should respect you.
Just be a man and stand like a man.