I have gone through your articles and I find them educative. Just a few days ago you introduced this forum on the Right page which I read all questions and the advice you give. I read your article on why you will never catch your man cheating which I agree with. The reason why I am writing this email is because of that story of Wambui Kamagara as I don’t want it to happen to me. I have been having an affair with my best friend’s husband who pays for my two kids’ school fees and pays my bills. My friend suspects us as the boyfriend I introduced to her can’t be in a position to give me the life that I live in. To make it worse, my friend has been sharing with me how her husband does not get home early and sometimes even not going home at all. I feel guilty and I wish to quit but who will be paying my kid’s fees and who will be paying my bills as I am already used to this fancy lifestyle? Please help me as am in a dilemma. I will appreciate it.
Thank you for being our follower and finding a friend in us. Am not sorry for what you are feeling as that’s what you can still feel if you learn that your man is doing the same to you. Am happy that you have realized your mistakes before it’s too late. I haven’t seen anywhere you have said that the man has been paying your bills since the word go which means he just chipped in at some point. This again means that initially, you were settling all the bills by yourself. What you are fearing now is responsibilities which you well know they belong to you. Just face the man and tell him you cannot do it again and don’t let your friend know as this will make you lose your friend. Avoid the man like plague and work hard to raise your kids. Look for a man who is not married and start a life with and more so don’t rush and don’t expect too much from the man. Stand-alone like you used to before you choose this frustrating life.
All the best dear one.